By: Mel M.
Let’s be real: being single used to feel like something you were supposed to escape. You were either waiting on love, healing from heartbreak, or explaining why you’re “still single” like it was a problem to fix. But that vibe? It’s outdated.

In 2025, a lot of us are flipping the script. Singleness isn’t just what happens before a relationship. It’s the strategy. The foundation. The glow-up season where you figure yourself out, protect your peace, and build a life that makes you feel whole—with or without a partner.
So What Changed?
First of all, people are tired of wasting time. Tired of ghosting. Tired of “situationships” that go nowhere. More of us are saying, “Let me get myself right first,” instead of rushing into something that doesn’t serve us.
Studies show that singleness is actually on the rise, especially among millennials and Gen Z. But it’s not because we don’t want love. It’s because we’re getting smarter about it. We’re no longer treating relationships as trophies. We’re treating them as extensions of the life we’re already building.
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Putting yourself first doesn’t mean closing your heart or pretending you don’t want love. It means taking care of your emotional well-being before you invite someone else in. Here’s what that can look like:
- Healing old stuff. That breakup from two years ago? The one that still gets you tight? It’s time to deal with it.
- Knowing your worth. Not just saying “I deserve better” but acting like it—even when you’re lonely.
- Setting real boundaries. Saying no without guilt. Taking space when you need it.
- Getting clear on your values. What kind of relationship do you actually want? What are your non-negotiables?
This isn’t about becoming perfect before you date. It’s about knowing yourself well enough that you don’t accept less than you deserve.

Why Intentional Singleness Is a Whole Vibe Now
Let’s talk trends. People aren’t dating just to say they’re not single anymore. They’re dating with purpose. There’s even a name for it, “loud looking.” That’s when someone is very clear about what they want from jump. No more “just seeing where this goes.”
Then there’s micro‑mance; those small, consistent acts of care that matter way more than grand romantic gestures. A thoughtful text. Checking in after a hard day. Listening when someone vents. That’s the stuff that builds real connection.
And yes, we’re having the big conversations early now. Money, mental health, life goals: these topics are no longer off-limits in the first few weeks of dating. Because if you’re building something real, there’s no time for pretending.
Here’s the truth: when you enjoy your own company, you’re no longer chasing love. You’re choosing it. Big difference.
You get to focus on your passions. Travel solo. Start that side hustle. Go to therapy. Strengthen your friendships. Learn how to love yourself in ways no one else can.
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And when the right person does come along, you won’t be looking for them to complete you. You’ll be looking for someone who compliments what you’ve already built
Being single on purpose doesn’t mean you’ve given up on love. It means you’ve started choosing it differently. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself. When you do this, love becomes something you get to experience. It is not something you need to feel whole.
So take the time. Heal. Glow up. And when “us” shows up? You’ll be ready—in the best way possible.